The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you're the easiest person to fool. Isn't that so true? I mean, it's hard for us to fool others, but we can do all kinds of stuff in our own mind and heart that we can just fool ourselves with who we really are. Now, in order to begin and set out well in the practice of humility, you must take it for granted that you are proud, that you have all your life been more or less infected with this unreasonable temper.
If you think you're not conceited, it means you're very conceited indeed. And that's why I say I think we have to really dig deep and look at ourselves, truly ask ourselves, and we might need to be praying to God, asking our spouse, asking someone we really trust and care. Are we proud? They can help us see that because we can, like I said, we can easily deceive ourselves.