You might say, "I have taken you, my dear, to be my partner in life, to share with me the closest and most honorable bonds, in my children and in the care of my home." And now, what guidance should I offer you? But first, speak to her of your love. Nothing persuades a person to sincerely hear and accept advice more than knowing it comes from genuine affection. Say, for example, "Bill, I could have chosen many women with greater wealth or noble birth.
I chose you instead, drawn to your beautiful life, your modesty, your gentleness, and the steadfastness of your love for God." From there, gradually lead into a discussion of true wisdom, carefully addressing the subject of wealth. Instead, take a gentle approach, using your admiration of her life and character as the starting point. This way, your words will feel like reasoned guidance, not harsh or critical lecture.