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Question 9
David insists forgiveness is “not optional” and ties it directly to God forgiving us (Lord’s Prayer; Matthew 6:14–15; Matthew 18:21–35), even saying self-interest is enough motive; how does that conditional warning challenge common evangelical instincts about assurance and grace, and what do you do with Jesus’ threat that the unforgiving will be treated like the “wicked slave”?
Another way to ask: Jesus links God forgiving us to us forgiving others (Matthew 6:14–15; 18:21–35). How does that warning challenge how you think about grace and being sure you’re saved, and what do you do with Jesus’ threat about the unforgiving “wicked slave”?
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David’s teaching presses Jesus’ warnings in a very direct way: refusing to forgive puts your own forgiveness at risk, so grace can’t be used to justify ongoing bitterness; he urges taking Jesus’ “wicked slave” threat literally as a sober call to forgive “from your heart.”
- David states plainly: “forgiveness is not optional. It is a direct commandment of Christ.”
- He quotes Jesus after the model prayer: “if you forgive… your heavenly Father will also forgive you… if you do not forgive… neither will your Father forgive.”
- He applies it to ex-JWs: “if we refuse to forgive the witnesses, God is not going to forgive us… it is that simple.”
- He even appeals to “self-interest”: “even if your only motive is self-interest, you will want to forgive.”
- He reads Matthew 18: the master calls him “Wicked slave,” and Jesus concludes: “My heavenly Father will also deal with you in the same way if… you do not forgive… from your heart.”
- David interprets our grievances as small compared to our sin-debt: the Watchtower debt is “only a tiny debt in God’s eyes” compared to “the debt that we owe God.”