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Tertullian asks, “Why therefore excite toward yourself that evil passion? Why invite that to which you profess yourself a stranger?”; where is the line between normal attractiveness and “inviting,” and what heart-motives would reveal that a person is “glorying in their looks, not in their hearts”?

Another way to ask: Where is the line between looking nice and trying to “invite” sexual attention? What signs in someone’s motives would show they care more about showing off their looks than their character?

Direct Answer In the transcript, the line is crossed when someone intentionally “dresses to please others” and draws the eyes of strangers, especially by enhancing or exposing the body in ways meant to attract. The revealing heart-motive is a desire for admiration and sexual attention rather than a quiet, modest spirit focused on Christ.

Support from Transcript:

Clement: “Those who glory in their looks, not in their hearts, dress to please others.”
Clement warns against uncovering/exhibiting “any part” so that “men [may not be] excited to look” and women not “draw… the eyes of the men.”
Tertullian: “Why therefore excite toward yourself that evil passion? Why invite that to which you profess yourself a stranger?”
Bercot’s modern example: women may be “dowdy… around the house,” but “when they go out… strangers” they “carefully make up” and dress “very attractive,” while denying they want lust.
He frames cosmetics as even harder to claim innocence: “I’m not satisfied with the beauty that God has given me… to look beautiful to strangers.”
Peter’s alternative: adorn “the hidden person of the heart… a gentle and quiet spirit.”

Discussion Follow-ups What signs show you’re dressing for your spouse and basic decency versus “to look pleasing even to strangers”? How do you practice modesty as a heart posture, not only a wardrobe decision?

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