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Question 6

Bercot insists on letting others help examine us—spouse, mature friends, church leaders; what would it practically look like to invite that kind of feedback, and what does our resistance reveal about pride, privacy, or control?

Another way to ask: What would it look like to ask your spouse, close mature friends, or church leaders to help examine your life? Why do we resist that kind of input—pride, privacy, or wanting control?

Direct Answer

Practically, Bercot calls believers to ask close, trustworthy Christians to identify unsurrendered areas and needed changes; resistance likely shows we want to protect hidden sin or maintain control over how we are seen.

Support from Transcript:

He says, “Before we reinstall the P-Traps… we must let others help us in our examination.”
Specific practice for marriage: “ask our spouse for insights… What areas do they see that we have not yet surrendered to Christ?”
He suggests asking direct questions: “What changes do they think we will need to make to be fully surrendered?”
He widens the circle: “receive input from mature Christian friends and our church leaders. They will likely see things that we don’t.”
The overall framing is humility under truth: self-examination is “no-holds-barred,” implying we shouldn’t edit the findings to protect ourselves.

Discussion Follow-ups What safeguards help this be honest and not accusatory (prayer, specific questions, willingness to listen)? Which is harder for you: asking, or accepting what you hear without defending yourself?

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