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Sound Faith / Intercession That Vanquish Demons Who Stir Up War
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Question 5
John Chrysostom is quoted saying it would be better to “leave your prayer, become reconciled… and then offer your prayer”; how does that confront modern habits of praying while still justifying resentment, contempt, or coldness toward someone?
Another way to ask: Chrysostom says to stop and make peace before you pray. How does that challenge the habit of praying while still holding resentment, contempt, or coldness toward someone?
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The Chrysostom quote confronts the modern habit of treating prayer as valid even when the heart is morally compromised; it says reconciliation matters more than continuing religious activity. It challenges “justifying” resentment by implying such prayer should be interrupted until the relationship is addressed.

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  • Chrysostom is quoted: even prayer and almsgiving are a “gift and sacrifice,” so the heart’s posture matters when offering them.
  • He says if it’s “only a prayer… it would be better to leave your prayer, become reconciled… and then offer your prayer.”
  • The speaker applies this to the “frame of mind” of resentment, arguing prayer offered with ill temper is not acceptable.
  • William Law is used similarly: intercession helps make the heart “incapable of spite and envy,” implying spite is incompatible with true prayer.
  • The speaker concludes, “Either we’re going to love that person… or we can’t do it. They don’t go together,” challenging cold religious routine.
Discussion Follow-ups Where do you most commonly “keep praying” while excusing coldness—family, church relationships, or old wounds—and what would it mean to stop and deal with it first?
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