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Question 9

Dean wrestles with whether the longing for acceptance and belonging was “old man” carnality or a God-given drive that needed “redirected,” and he lands in Hebrews 11 (seeking a homeland/city God prepared); how do you distinguish between sinful craving for tribal belonging and a holy hunger for God’s kingdom—and what practices actually redirect that hunger?

Another way to ask: How can you tell the difference between a sinful need to “fit in” with a group and a good desire for God’s kingdom, and what habits help turn that desire toward God?

Direct Answer Dean distinguishes them by their fruit and destination: sinful tribal belonging expresses itself in egocentric partisanship and hatred, while holy hunger seeks God’s “better…heavenly country”; he redirects it through studying Scripture, prayer, and consciously aiming that desire toward God’s kingdom.

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He first suspects the longing is “old man…a carnal desire,” but later concludes “God had put this drive within me…[it] needed to be redirected.”
Hebrews 11:8–10 shapes his thinking: Abraham lived as a sojourner and “looked for a city…whose builder and maker is God.”
Hebrews 11:14–16 reinforces the goal: they “seek a homeland…a better, that is, a heavenly country…God…prepared a city for them.”
He contrasts worldly patriotism: it was “divisive and egocentric,” often paired with “showing my loyalty…by hating my opponents.”
He says the redirect happened “as I continued to study and pray,” and as he realized God’s kingdom is where “He alone reigns as King.”

Discussion Follow-ups What “fruit” shows your belonging is tribal (contempt, fear, superiority) versus kingdom-shaped (peace, humility, love)? Which practices—Scripture, prayer, rethinking enemies—most directly retrain your instincts?

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