Discussion Jumpstarter
Study leader reference - not a definitive answer
Question 3
Becky said, “God doesn’t have grandchildren,” and that children don’t come to faith just because their parents have faith; how should this sober reality change the way you talk about “successful homeschooling,” “good kids,” or assurance, especially when your family culture looks strong from the outside?
Another way to ask: If kids don’t believe just because their parents believe, how should that change what you call “successful homeschooling” or “good kids”? How should it affect your confidence when your family looks great from the outside?
Discussion Jumpstarter
Direct Answer
Based on Becky’s point, “successful homeschooling” cannot mean producing outwardly well-behaved kids; it should be spoken of more humbly, recognizing that real faith is God’s work in each child, not proof of parental methods or a strong family culture.
- Becky states plainly: “God doesn’t have grandchildren,” and “Our children don’t come to faith just because we have faith.”
- She says children “have to be transformed and filled with the Holy Spirit,” placing regeneration outside parental control.
- She balances responsibility and dependence: “We disciple…we plant those seeds, but ultimately, it’s God who brings that heart to life.”
- Faith warns against appearances by stressing identity at home: “Who you are is the person you are at home,” implying outward “niceness” can mislead.
- Becky also urges moms to let children see real repentance and growth: “how you forgive…how you begin again when your day falls apart.”