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Question 9
Consider the “one free tip”: “Get everything done, get everything right that your parents got right… then pick one or two things they did wrong and get those right”; what specific “one or two things” are you tempted to fix first in your parents’ legacy, and what might it reveal if you resist the harder work of first imitating what they did right?
Another way to ask: What are the first one or two things you most want to fix from your parents’ mistakes? If you avoid copying what they did right first, what might that show about you?
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The transcript doesn’t name your parents’ specific strengths or weaknesses, but it teaches a principle: we’re often tempted to start by fixing faults because it feels urgent or makes us feel superior, while the harder work is humbly imitating what our parents actually did right. Resisting that first step may reveal pride, impatience, or a bias toward critique over formation.
- His “tip”: “Just get everything done, get everything right that your parents got right… then pick one or two things that they did wrong and get those right.”
- He calls it “really simple… but… very difficult,” implying humility and persistence are required.
- He admits he isn’t there yet: “I have a lot more work to do before I get everything right that my parents got right.”
- He says realizing difficulty makes faults look smaller: “the more that I realize how hard it is, the smaller their imperfections look.”
- He hopes maturity includes reassessment: “Maybe they weren’t really as bad as I thought they were.”