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Question 5
When James says prayers go unanswered because we “ask amiss” to spend on our lusts, the speaker argues God “often refuses” selfish petitions; how does that picture of God challenge common assumptions about prayer and “claiming promises,” and what would it look like to bring desires to God without ego-inflation driving the request?
Another way to ask: If God often says no to selfish prayers, how does that challenge how you think about prayer and “claiming promises”? What would it look like to bring your desires to God without pride or self-focus?
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Direct Answer
Based on the speaker’s teaching, God is not obligated to answer prayers that are driven by selfish motives, even if they are strongly desired. This challenges a “get what I want” approach to prayer and calls for desires to be brought with humility and God-centered intent rather than ego.
- James is quoted: “You ask and receive not because you ask amiss, that you may spend it upon your lusts.”
- The speaker interprets: people ask “selfish[ly], stemming from a desire to inflate their own ego…or waste it on themselves.”
- He concludes, “Therefore, God often refuses to grant petitions that are brought before him.”
- He ties prayer to relational righteousness: character assassination makes us “even less likely to receive something from God.”
- He points to a different posture: become “more God-conscious and less self-conscious,” asking, “Is this for God…?” and living with “If the Lord wills.”