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Question 3
The speaker describes a childhood shaped by fear, violence, and control (“torture chamber,” leather straps, the dog Lassie used as leverage). How did that environment distort his view of authority and obedience, and how did God later begin to untangle “obeying dad” from being ruled by fear?
Another way to ask: How did growing up with fear and control twist his view of authority and obedience? How did God later help him separate “obeying dad” from just being afraid?
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Direct Answer
His home trained him to associate authority with threat, pain, and manipulation, so “obedience” often meant survival rather than willing honor. Later, after his prayer encounter, God began shifting his heart so obedience became a chosen response rather than forced submission.
- He calls the barn corner a “torture chamber,” where his dad hung “leather straps” and decided he had to “get stricter and whip harder.”
- He says, “Dad was to be feared,” describing swollen arms, bleeding, and a back “so swollen” it was hard to bend.
- Control extended even to the dog: Dad would “tie up Lassie till you say you’re sorry or till you comply,” using compassion for the dog as leverage.
- The fear escalated to violence: his dad “punched me in the face,” leaving “black and blue eyes…bloody face,” leading to Child and Youth Services visits.
- After the hay-barn prayer, he went to his dad and said, “I want to obey you… I’m sorry,” and notes his dad “still remembers that,” suggesting a new motive and a softened relationship.