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Question 2
Irvin said his dad was “definitely a born-again believer,” yet Irvin grew bitter when his dad’s counseling ministry took his evenings and Saturdays; what does this story suggest about the real spiritual cost children can pay for a parent’s “good” ministry, and how should Christians weigh kingdom work against presence at home?
Another way to ask: What does Irvin’s bitterness about his dad’s busy counseling ministry show about the cost kids can pay when a parent is always doing “good” ministry work? How should Christians balance serving others with being present at home?
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Direct Answer
The transcript suggests that even sincere “kingdom work” can carry a real relational cost at home, and that cost can become a seedbed for bitterness in a child. Irvin’s story implies parents must weigh ministry load against the spiritual need for presence and relationship.
- Irvin affirms his dad’s faith: “Dad was definitely a Christian… a born-again believer… tried to… raise his children right.”
- The shift came when dad went into “full-time counseling at a retreat,” quickly becoming “five days a week” and “often went out Saturdays yet.”
- Even at home dad was still unavailable: “come home evenings… be on the phone yet for a couple of hours, often till 9, 10 o’clock.”
- Irvin names the effect: “I got a little bitter through that. It seemed like he didn’t have any time anymore.”
- Later, Irvin resisted his dad’s attempts to reconnect: “He tried to reach out… and I just pushed him away.”